We watched the first 23 minutes of a Tara Brach video called Kindness is My Religion after our meditation and a tea break. In it, she talks about how we often feel fundamentally wrong or flawed in some way, and the ways that kindness can reshape our life:

If we're acting in ways that cause others to suffer, it's because in some way we're suffering. Something was done to us. It's kind of a chain - it didn't start with us. There's not some intrinsic badness.