This week we listened to a talk by Tara Brach in which she examines how suffering arises from the unseen, unfelt, resisted parts of our psyche. She explores the ways we can deepen self-honesty and reconnect to a wholeness of being, noting:

So we begin to see our strategies to get attention, to get approval, to be important, to be special...If we add a judgement to this, though, we're only adding to the layering. Just be honest: how am I seeking attention, seeking approval? We begin to scan our relationships and notice - when am I wanting something from another person?