We watched a video with Acharya Fleet Maull on ways to work with negative dramas in our life:

If we're going to avoid getting caught up in drama, we're doing to have to learn to recognize what I call our "drama hooks". We all have them and they're just like fish hook, dangling all over the place. When I see one with your name on it, I don't even notice it, it just floats right by. But when I see one with my name on it, oh boy...!

You can watch it here.